A Polyamory Case Study

How I "Right-Sized" My New Relationship (Instead of Breaking Up)— without a SINGLE Processing Conversation

Come Behind-the-Scenes & See How I Onboarded a New Poly Partner

(Despite the First 4 Months Not Going As I'd Hoped)

The Questions I Asked, How I Shared My Feelings, Made Requests & Set Boundaries to Build a Long-Term, Happy, Healthy, Hot, Zero-Drama Partnership

Regular Price

$47

Special Launch Price!

Only $17!

Hell Yeah, I Want it!

"Wendy's Approach Feels Aligned and Intuitive... It's What I'd Already Believe If I Knew It, But No One's Ever Taught Me."

--Tasia L.

Most people process their emotions with their partner.

It certainly felt normal and intuitive to me when I was in my first long-term poly partnership back in 2018.

But I learned the hard way over time that it was not helping our situation. It was actually hurting it.

I've found it much more effective to take a Polyamory Processing Break (a P.P. Break!) to analyze my feelings and needs and formulate boundaries and requests.

Inside How I "Right-Sized" My New Relationship, you'll read the actual letters I sent during the first 4 months of a new relationship as we navigated different expectations, different needs and desires, uncertainty, an STI disclosure, and my gradual realization that the relationship wasn't going to look the way I'd originally imagined.

Nothing has been rewritten.

These are the exact letters I sent, in the order I sent them, along with the context that led to each one and my reflections as I look back today.

Inside You'll Find:

  • The original letters I sent at pivotal moments.

  • My partner's responses (where relevant).

  • Context about each letter so you understand what was happening.

  • Commentary explaining why I chose the words I did, what I was hoping to accomplish, and what I might do differently today.

Together, they document something you've probably never seen modeled:

This is the play-by-play of what it looks like to keep evolving the form of a relationship as new information comes in until you find a dynamic that works for you both.

  • By listening to your feelings

  • Accepting the person you love for who and how they are

  • Continuing to put the puzzle pieces together until you can see what's actually true and workable.

Along the way, you'll watch me navigate:

  • Defining the relationship.

  • Different expectations for time, intimacy, and communication.

  • An STI disclosure and sexual boundaries.

  • Letting disappointment inform my decisions instead of turning into resentment.

  • Recalibrating my expectations as reality unfolded.

  • Taking responsibility for my own emotions without making them someone else's responsibility.

  • Communicating clearly without hours-long processing conversations.

This Is for You if...

This is a must-have if you:

  • Processing your feelings with your partner is the primary way you navigate your relationship.

  • You want to make decisions that support you in keeping your heart open, without leaving it unprotected.

  • You want to see what emotional integrity actually looks like in practice.

  • You learn best from real examples instead of abstract advice.

  • You're exhausted either, by the processing conversations themselves and/or by all the incidents that are creating the NEED to have those conversations...

  • You've read the polyamory books and podcasts, have done a lot of personal growth and work on your communication skills...but you know you are lacking in ACTUAL role models of what a happy, healthy non-codependent relationship could even look like, let alone, how it happens. This gives you both.

What to Expect

Scripts and templates absolutely have their place and can be helpful.

But this is more intimate and raw than that.

This is LITERALLY me sharing with you the Google doc that contains the three letters I wrote to my partner at major turning points along the way, AND the responses I got back.

This is a great example of what it takes on a practical level to engage in the REALITY of a relationship with someone instead of pressuring them to be who we want or who we wish they were.

I deleted particular names/identifying information, cut a couple paragraphs that weren't relevant, but otherwise, this is exactly how I actually show up in relationships, because this is literally taken FROM my relationship.

SIGN ME UP

My Clients Have Appeared in:

"

"My conversations with Wendy have really sparked something in me. The values and perspectives she's shared have become some of my core values. She always seems to offer me a perspective that I hadn't seen and it always feels like a relief.

If you have the chance to work with her, just do it!

She's definitely saved my butt and helped me take the edge off my acute heartbreak. There's no one else who has her wisdom, experience and intuition."

-- Tasia C.

"

“I came in thinking I was an impossible case.

Trauma-riddled, poly-resistant, and constantly on edge in my relationship.

Wendy helped me not only survive, but completely rewire how I show up with my partner. I’ve gone from feeling devastated, dysregulated, and betrayed... to clear, calm, and in command of my own boundaries and needs.

For the first time, I can engage with my partner with love and self-trust.

If you’re willing to do your inner work, she will walk with you every step — even if it feels impossible now.”

-- A. McRae

"

"Wendy helps me feel more aware of my feelings moment-to-moment.

The time I spend with her always re-connects me to a wide range of emotions, in a safe and caring context.

If you have the possibility to explore with her, go for it!

-- Genevieve Keller

NVC (Nonviolent Communication Trainer)

"

"Through this work with Wendy, I’m learning to rein in my emotional investment, meet people where they're at, and let things play out without rushing or forcing clarity…That shift has changed everything for me."

-- Jaclyn Z.

Corporate Consultant

"

"Wendy really gets it. What she brings to the table is an emotional depth and presence that is hard to come by in any field, but her wisdom and experience both as a business coach and a human navigating conscious intimate relationships is unparalleled. "

-- Mukti Mia Jarvis

Experiential Attachment-Oriented Relationship Therapist

"

"I've made more progress in the short time I've worked with her than in the prior ten years."

-- Cheryl Brunette

Knitting Teacher with 70k Followers on Youtube

Sign up below for instant access.

How I "Right-Sized" My New Relationship (Instead of Breaking Up)— without a SINGLE Processing Conversation

REGISTRATION FORM

Your Payment is Secure

Rest Assured

I'll Never Sell or Share Your Data

Contact Information

Billing Information

By clicking "Submit My Information" below you agree that I may collect and use your email/phone number to contact you about this purchase or other programs, You also agree to my Terms & Conditions. Your data is 100% secured and will never be shared.

Special Launch Price!

Only $17!

$47 value

As soon as you complete your registration, you'll get access to the Google doc and can start applying it all to YOUR relationships....

YOUR INVESTMENT

THe The

(It's kinda like buying a new pair of underwear: If you divide the cost by the number of hours it'll come in handy, it's RIDICULOUSLY cheap. 😂)

"Wendy is the most brilliant coach I could ever imagine having. She has gone to the depths of my being (it’s deep in there) and gently coaxed out more of who I am at my essence... I will do a stand-up testimonial for her anywhere, anytime."

Beth Amine

Author, Founder of Joyous Movement, Timeless Lifestyle Influencer

NEED HELP?

Use the red chat button with the heart on the bottom right of this page to send me a message and I'll get back to you ASAP.

Call or Text 773.615.1382 by iMessage, Telegram, Signal or Whatsapp or find me @wendygarrido on Telegram and Voxer

Email Me Anytime wendy@wendygarrido.com

Have More Questions?

Use the red heart at the bottom right of the screen to shoot me a message, and I'll respond asap or send me a text (or slightly-rambly audio memo) to 773.615.1382 or email me at wendy@wendygarrido.com.

CONTACT

Mailing Address: PO Box 2617

Nevada City, CA 95959

Email: wendy@wendygarrido.com

Phone: 773.615.1382